My new favorite way to wear my hair lately has been a high messy bun with a big flower toward the front. I normally wear a flower toward the back or near my ear, so this is different for me. This way feels more fun and playful. I love it as a summer look!
I happened across this video today…. It was on my “recommended for you” list on youtube. I thought her advice was great and I wanted to share it with all of you. I know your first reaction might be “I don’t have African hair, this won’t help me.” Trust me, it’s not a matter of race, it’s all about hair texture. I figured out a long time ago that products and techniques African women use for their hair will many times work perfectly for me! Straight hair and curly hair are cared for and maintained in different ways, sometimes the information will even contradict between the two. That’s ok. Methods will even differ depending on how curly your hair is. Choose what works best for your hair type. So if you have curly hair, her tips will be helpful to you. I do almost everything she lists here.
I browsed her youtube channel and found it interesting that she had been relaxing her hair since she was a child because her mom didn’t really know how to care for it. She grew up not even knowing what her natural texture was! Her hair wasn’t super damaged from it, but out of curiosity she cut off all the relaxed part and started fresh and has been growing it for two years.
I think this is a great example of what has been happening for ages with curly girls. Especially when the mom has straight hair, she has no clue how to deal with a curly haired daughter. She treats the daughter’s hair the exact same way she treats her own straight hair. And it doesn’t work! I see this a lot and it makes me sad because the daughter grows up hating her hair and thinking the only option for making her hair look good is a flat iron or blow dryer. Ladies, do your daughters a huge favor….. If their hair is a different texture than yours, learn about how to care for it properly and teach her how to as well. Don’t help her grow up hating her natural hair!
I cannot even begin to express my frustration! Why? WHY?!?! do companies insist on changing their formulas if everybody loves it the way it is? I know I’ve ranted about this on here before. This happens to me on a regular basis. I find a conditioner that I love. My hair responds perfectly, it looks and feels amazing. I use it exclusively for a couple of years. Then I walk into the store and see a new label on it, or a newly designed bottle, and my heart sinks. I know that a new container means a new and “improved” formula. Just let me say, it is never an improvement. The new label is a signal for me to look for a new conditioner.
You may remember my post about Yes to Cucumbers conditioner. I started using it just about 2 years ago. I’ve loved every minute of it. There has been nothing about it I did not like. When I saw the new bottle, I immediately read the ingredients to be sure that they had not added cones (that’s the most common change). Nothing stood out to me. I was hoping for the best. But……. About half way through the new bottle, I noticed my hair starting to feel waxy. I took note of it, but my hair was still behaving pretty well so I let it go.
Then, last week, I had the most horrible experience! I went to put my hair up, finger-combing to pull it back. I was startled as my fingers caught on the biggest tangled mess I think I’ve ever had in my hair! I’m not exaggerating. There was a matted knot at the base of my head that was 2-3 inches across. My hair does not tangle. As curly and long as it is, I’ve never had issues with tangles! Being on the back of my head, I couldn’t see what I was doing and it took me quite some time to detangle it. I was beginning to wonder if I would have to cut some of it out. Gladly, I didn’t. Only a couple of days later, after washing my hair as usual, I noticed that my hair felt sticky as it was air drying. I tried to put gel on and it just literally stuck to my hands. I could hardly get gel through it because of it. The drier it got, the worse it felt. It felt stiff and would not curl at all! It was turning into a huge frizzy sticky mess! And I was due to leave in an hour for my friend’s birthday celebration! I became so frustrated that I cried! I finally gave up and decided to wash my hair again, even though I knew it would still be dripping wet when I left. I washed it twice with a mixture of shampoo and baking soda to strip it, then applied conditioner. It felt and looked much better after that.
I really do not want to continue using this conditioner. I had bought two bottles because there was a sale, but be assured I will be taking the second bottle back for a refund. I don’t have an old bottle to compare the ingredients and see what they changed. They still have the old one for sale on their website, along with the new one. They have the same ingredient list for both. Maybe it updated for all the products, rather than just the new ones. I don’t know. But I know they did change something, because the conditioner itself looks different. I also sent a complaint to the company and left a negative review on their website. Apparently, I’m not the only one dissatisfied with it.
I remember a story a long haired friend told about how her coworker found one of her hairs in his house. She had never, ever been in his house. Thinking back, he remembered that he had sat in her desk chair for a few minutes one day at work. Apparently one of her hairs that had been on the chair attached itself to his clothing and hitched a ride home with him. She said “It’s a good thing he wasn’t murdered, I might have been blamed when they found my hair on the scene!”
Probably the biggest annoyance to me that comes with having long hair is that you find it everywhere. Evveryyywheeeerrre. Because the hairs are so big, they’re noticeable. They’re easy to find. Or more like… it’s easier for them to find you! They lurk in the carpet and wrap themselves around your toes. They thread themselves through your clothing and drop off at inopportune moments (like in the kitchen). They collectively sabotage your drains and vacuum cleaners. It seems that no matter how hard you try, no matter how diligent you are about disposing of them, they still end up everywhere.
I have found a few ways to help in this area. I used to have to clean out my shower drain about once a month simply because it would stop draining. What I pulled out looked like a drowned mouse and smelled like death. Because of that, I started sticking my loose hairs to the shower wall during my shower. Any hairs that I find on my hands or stuck to my body will go on the shower wall. I detangle my hair in the shower, so I get a ton. It ends up looking like this —> by the time I’m done. (this is an actual pic of my shower) After my shower, I simply wipe my hand across the wall to gather up all the hair and drop it in the trash. It may seem gross, but it’s not near as gross as the dead mouse drain thing. I also have one of these, a drain strainer, to catch anything that I don’t. It even traps my husband’s hair which is only a couple inches long! You can pick one up somewhere like Walmart. There are different options for drain shapes and sizes.
Another indispensible item in our house is a rubber broom. Several years ago, my mom saw one in a magazine and decided to give it a try. With three long haired people living in the house, it was part of our regular vacuuming routine to sit and dig hair out of the vacuum cleaner! We hated that so much! I’m telling you, this broom will find more hair than you ever imagined was lurking in your carpet. And it will pick up more hair than your vacuum will. You can also use it on your furniture or in your car. I bought mine online at simplygoodstuff.com, but they’re available on several different sites.
I hope these little tips will help you out. Let me know how it goes for you. If you have any more suggestions for capturing these rogues, please share!
A big issue with long hair is damage. The more damaged your hair is, the harder it is to gain (or maintain) length. Also, the longer your hair is, the easier it gets damaged. Some of that, you just can’t help. It’s nature. But there are some things that we commonly do on a regular basis that actually cause damage to the hair. Towel-drying is one of those things. In case you haven’t noticed, towels have a very rough texture. This texture grabs your hair and pulls and tugs it in different directions. This can cause breakage. And please tell me you’re not rubbing the towel over your hair to dry it!
Several years ago, I stopped using towels on my hair. I learned first about plopping and started doing that with my towel with great success. But a towel is heavy and hard to secure in a plop. When I heard about using a t-shirt, I tried it immediately and never looked back. A t-shirt is very soft (usually 100% cotton) with a smooth texture that doesn’t grab at your hair. I had a lot less frizz, and over time, less breakage. I simply love it!
If you have curly hair and you don’t plop, you should try it! But drying with a t-shirt is not limited to curly girls! Here are a couple of videos showing how to use a t-shirt to dry your hair.
This one is for those with straight hair that don’t want to plop. She made this video at my request! How sweet! By the way, she has some great style tutorials so be sure to check out her youtube channel Torrin Paige.
This one is for plopping. There’s a lot of talking at the beginning, but the plopping explanation starts at about 8 minutes, so you can skip to there if you want. This is basically how I do it. You won’t need an extra long shirt, no matter how long your hair is.
I tried this and it works beautifully!
I was finishing it up literally as we were walking out the door so I didn’t get to tweak it like I wanted to. I didn’t realize how lopsided it was until I got home and took these pics. It turned out that way because I just pinned the braid tails on either side of the dutch braids, and the right one was thicker. If I’d had more time, I would have pinned it a little differently.
In spite of that, I think it looks awesome and I love the way it turned out! Like she says in the video, I agree that it looks like I have a lot longer hair because there are 3 layers of braid in some areas. I will definitely be keeping this one in mind since I’ve never really effectively been able to do a real crown braid on myself.
I measured my hair for the first time in a couple of years. It’s now at 41.5 inches! The tips just reach the bottom of my bum. A new record for me! I need to trim, though, to thicken up the ends. I’ll probably be doing that soon which will put me back up to about tailbone length again.
Here’s what my length looks like now. The ends look too thin, I’m not happy with that. I’ve been trying to do better on my hair care, getting back into routine DT’s and microtrims and all that. I had also sort of cut a few layers to try to lighten the weight of the top layer so it’s curlier. It hasn’t helped very much so I’m going to let them grow back out to give more fullness at the ends. My hair is getting long enough that it’s going to weigh down the top no matter what I do. I think I’m ok with that. Looking back at pics, it looked its best about 6 years ago and I would really like to get back to that. I don’t know if I can without cutting it back to that length though. Crossing my fingers…….
Here are a few things I’ve learned since I started using henna to dye my hair:
- Wear dark clothes or something you don’t mind getting stained while applying the henna.
- Wear long sleeves, long pants, and socks if you’re applying it yourself. It can get messy.
- Rub a thin layer of vaseline (I use vegetable-based) on your ears and around your hairline before you get started. This will help lessen staining on your skin.
- Applying it at night and sleeping on it is easier than trying to go about my day with 5lbs of mud on my head.
- If you leave it in overnight, place a dark towel over your pillow to catch any leaks.
- After rinsing out the henna, use sweet almond oil to remove stains on skin.
- Use dark colored or old towels the next few times you wash your hair. It will continue to bleed orange for a few washes. Even if you don’t use a towel on your hair, the orange water can run down your neck and back and stain the towel you’re using to dry your body. Just saying… if you don’t want your pretty white towels stained, be very careful!
- Be careful when air drying your hair for the same reason, it will drip orange and stain your shirt. Drape a towel over your shoulders or wear a dark shirt.
Before and after using sweet almond oil to remove henna stains around my hairline. >
It doesn’t always take it away completely, but it works much better than soap. I’ve also found that my Yes To Cucumbers Towelettes work great for this too!
I’ve decided that my hair is too long to henna myself. I end up with tangles and my hair matting together as I try to section it. This time I spent almost as much time detangling as I did applying henna. Last time was bad, this time was worse. I was so frustrated I almost cried and my scalp ended up being sore! So from now on, I’ll have to get my sister to put it in for me. (or con my husband into trying his hand at it!) I think I will still do root touch-ups myself, but when I do the whole thing I will need help.
Getting ready to henna my hair today! Did you know that Lucille Ball (known for her blazing red hair) was not a natural redhead? According to ChaCha, Lucy described her own natural hair as mousy brown. She used henna to die it red!
“…She colored her hair blonde as a starlet in the 1930s and 1940s. To look better in front of the television camera, she dyed it red and often wore a wig on the set. She stayed with that hue from the 1950s onward. (She once joked that she was keeping the economy of Egypt afloat with her annual orders of henna.)”
Winter is quickly approaching. With winter comes static electricity. Static in your hair is a big deal. The longer your hair is, the bigger deal it is. It can get a little creepy when your hair starts reaching out to people standing two or three feet away, or when you pull back from a hug and your hair is still clinging to the other person.
Imagine this with 3 feet of hair!
So I’m going to share with you some ways I’ve learned to help reduce static in hair.
1. Wear clothing that isn’t prone to static. We all know that sweaters are like the best conductors of electricity, right? But does that stop us? No! Here’s a tip….. natural fiber clothing (cotton, bamboo, wool, silk, leather, etc.) is less prone to static than synthetic fibers. Cotton is actually neutral when it comes to electricity. Cotton sweaters don’t get static! (But you have to get fabrics that are 100% cotton, not mixed with a synthetic.) So keep this in mind when you go shopping for your winter clothes, hats, coats, gloves, and scarves.
2. If you wear something that is prone to static, wear your hair up. This is the simplest solution.
3. Use combs made of bone or horn. I used to use a plastic wide-tooth comb. Every time I combed my hair, it would get static. Since buying a horn comb, I no longer have that problem. (I do use a plastic comb in the shower because water can damage natural ones. Besides, in the shower you don’t have to worry about static.)
4. Using fabric softener or dryer sheets on your hair is a very common remedy that I hear a lot. And I admit, in a pinch, I’ve prayed Static Guard on my hair. I don’t recommend this. It works, but the chemicals are not good for your hair. Please only do this if you’re desperate!
5. Condition, Condition, Condition. I can’t stress this enough! This is the most important thing to do! Dryness is what brings about so much static. I read that even dry skin will cause static in your clothing. So keep your hair (and skin) moisturized! Do regular deep conditioning treatments about once a month, and use plenty of conditioner when you wash your hair. Make sure you don’t have build-up that is preventing the moisture from soaking in. I like to scrunch raw shea butter into the ends immediately after my shower to seal in the moisture. (I also use it as body lotion.) For those with straight hair, smoothing a few drops of oil into your ends daily is highly recommended.
I wish you all a happy, static-free winter!!
My second reader is a more recent but still enthusiastic follower. She expressed interest in various hair care routines, hair journey stories, and favorite hair styles of other readers. So please help her out by being my next featured reader!
How long is your hair? 33″
Is your hair naturally curly? No. The underlayer of my hair has a slight wave to it at the nape of my neck, but it’s so heavy it’s hard to see unless I have my hair up in an half-do.
What products do you use for cleansing your hair? I use all Giovanni products at the moment, but I have used Suave, Chagrin Natural Bars, and Baking Soda in the past. Giovanni so far has worked the best and offers gentle SLS-free products. I’ll also use WEN cleansing conditioner when I have to wash a lot.
What products do you use for styling your hair? I use Giovanni anti-frizz; I don’t generally have frizzy hair, but I like how it smells and it helps with the static since I live in a drier climate.
Do you change products often? No. I went through a phase where I was changing them up every few weeks, but that age old motto “if it’s not broken don’t fix it” really epitomizes my hair’s needs.
Where do you buy your products? Walmart for the win! If I’m buying henna I’ll either go to my health food store or go online. WEN is available online, but I bum mine off my mum.
What is your hair care routine? A typical week for me would be to use coconut oil (if I remember) the night before I wash, and then shampoo (twice) with Giovanni, rinse, squirt diluted conditioner all through my hair, let it sit and rinse with lukewarm to cold water. I towel dry (I never use heat) and then scrunch my anti-frizz serum through my damp hair after combing it with a wide tooth comb and I’m done! I’ll use different hair masques, all homemade, when I have the time or when I feel the need to do so. I used to S&D (search and destroy) religiously, but honestly I haven’t seen a huge need for it right now and I have a feeling with the length and thickness of my hair I might just go crazy trying to get rid of everything. Instead, I just treat it gently, don’t wear it in restricting or really tight hairstyles a lot and use coconut oil and that seems to be helping. I also cut out all SLS products from my hair’s diet and that has made a big difference as well. I usually will wait anywhere from two to four days between washing again depending on how dirty my hair is. If I have to wash it two days in a row, I’ll use WEN instead of the Giovanni. I will trim as I see fit, but my hair grows fairly evenly so there isn’t a huge need for it.
How do you wear your hair most often, up or down? Down. Since I’ve recently layered it there is more movement and I’m able to keep it down. Usually the last day before I wash, my natural oils have built up enough on my scalp that I prefer keeping it up.
When did you decide to grow your hair long? My family is full of longhairs and I have gone from long hair to short to long to short to long all my life. This time around, I’m growing it out because 1) I love long hair 2) it suits me, but also because it makes me happy and it is a little bit of a security blanket and this time around I’m not growing it out just for the sake of having long hair and bragging rights. I’m growing it out because I truly enjoy having it longer.
What influenced that decision? A small portion of growing my hair long again was being bored with the short hair, but a lot of it was feeling self conscious about myself; I didn’t like how I looked or felt. I wanted something unique to me and also I saw that it made my husband happy for me to have hair that was really long and feminine, so that’s a big encouragement.
What do you like about your hair? I love the heaviness of it, and I love how thick and crazy it can get. It’s like me; not willing to be forced into any style that it doesn’t like.
What do you dislike about your hair? I tend to get really nasty tangles at the nape of my neck and I get headaches when I keep it up for too long.
Do you ever receive compliments about your hair? For the most part the majority of compliments I get are from my mom or my coworkers. My friends don’t get why I would bother with long hair especially since short and sassy is all the range haha!
How do you feel about strangers complimenting your hair? Honestly I find it really flattering, and it makes me feel great! The one comment I’ve been getting a lot lately is “Your hair is really long!” and I don’t really know how to respond to that one other than “um….yeah…it is…?” It’s not really a compliment so much as a comment, so I can’t really say thank you lol.
If you could give one tip, what would it be? Treat your hair like old lace whenever possible, and don’t assume that there is one magic hair fix; everyone will have different needs.
Elizabeth’s personal blog: www.thecontagiousintrovert.blogspot.com
I had a “duh” moment. One of my biggest problem areas is a dry flaky scalp. Over the last few seasons, I noticed a pattern. During the summer, my scalp was fairly free of flakes. As winter came on, I started seeing an increase. Then summer again and it decreased. I was thinking it didn’t really make sense because it had been a particularly hot and dry summer (three months of no rain and temps over 100). The dryness in the air and the heat should have made my skin/scalp drier, right?
Then it hit me! I’m very cold-natured and have to take steaming hot showers in the winter. I was taking much cooler showers in the summer (especially after being outdoors) because it was so hot and dry. The water temperature was affecting the dryness of my scalp! Now, I’ve known for a long time that washing your hair with very hot water can be a contributing factor for dry hair/scalp. I’ve even advised people about it. Why did it never occur to me that it was my problem? I have no idea…..
So now (after slapping myself on the forehead for being so ignorant) I try to wash my hair with cooler water, even if I have to wash it while leaning forward so the water doesn’t touch the rest of my body. Then I adjust the water to be warmer for the rest of my shower. I would like to be able to just wash my hair separately by kneeling next to the bathtub and putting my head under the faucet like I used to, but the position of the bathtub in the house I’m living in now makes that impossible. I still have issues with flakes, I think I always will because I just have naturally dry skin, but it is better when I use cooler water.
Name: Gillian N
Location: Sydney, Australia
How long is your hair? 37” When I first started growing my hair in 2008, my longest layer was 25”.
Is your hair naturally curly? Yes. My mother has afro hair and my father has straight hair so this is the result! My eldest brother has lovely afro hair like my mother, my second eldest brother has wavy hair and I have afro curly hair.
What type of curls do you have? I’ve had ringlet type curls (3B) but now it’s longer and the weight of the hair has lengthened out the ringlets.
Have you ever straightened your hair? No, my hair is a homage to my mother and her mother (my grandmother) before that. I would never straighten my hair. The thought of it has never occurred to me. To be honest, because my hair has an afro texture, it would be very difficult to straighten.
What products do you use for cleansing your hair? I use Tresseme Conditioner and I have recently returned to shampooing my hair with Tresemme Shampoo.
What products do you use for styling your hair? I wet my hair (leaving conditioner in) and rub a mixture of Garnier Fructis Surf Hair (to give it shape) and Taft Glued (to give it hold). Then I wait until it’s almost dry and I scrunch out the crunch which is a process that a lot of curlies will be familiar with. I find taking out any excess product with an old t-shirt works out well.
Do you change products often? Searching for the perfect product is like searching for the Holy Grail. Does it even exist? I’ve never found a product that I have been completely happy with. It’s more difficult as well living in Australia as there are a lot of great products available overseas that are not available here. I try not to change products. If it works, I’m very brand loyal. But as every curly girl knows, as soon as you like a product, it gets discontinued!
Where do you buy your products? I try not to spend a lot of money on products. I think with curly hair, the simpler you make your routine, the better it is. I usually try and buy supermarket brands. Not only are they cheaper but if you run out of a product, you can quickly run out and buy some more at the supermarket.
What is your hair care routine? My hair is quite long now as it’s almost hip curly so I’m more focused on thickening the hair. My 2012 hair maintenance plan is:
- Trimming my hair 0.5 centimetres every month.
- Trying to extend periods between washing my hair.
- Oiling the ends of my hair with jojoba oil the night before I’m going to wash my hair.
- Wearing my hair in a braid more often when I go out instead of wearing my hair down (my biggest hair vice).
- Sleeping on a satin pillow.
- Doing an S&D (search and destroy) weekly.
- Putting amla in my hair every second week.
- Taking my hair vitamins; Silica, Biotin, MSM & Omega 3
There is a lot that is said about henna on hair forums but not enough about the benefits of amla. I try and put amla in my hair every second week and it does absolute wonders for thickening my hair. It’s only temporary but I love the way that my hair looks after an amla treatment. I buy the Hesh brand again from a local Indian supermarket down my road. It costs less than $2 per packet. I use three packets for my hair.
How do you wear your hair most often, up or down? I work from home so I try and wear my hair in a braid as much as possible. When I go out, I like to wear my hair down. I don’t see the point in having long hair if you don’t enjoy it.
What is one hair tip you would like to give people? Take control of your hair journey. I believe that hairdressers were sabotaging my growth and I don’t think it was a coincidence that when I started cutting my own hair, that my hair started to grow. And exercise patience, hair only grows 0.5” per month after all!
When did you decide to grow your hair long? I’ve always loved long hair but I’ve always found it difficult to grow. But something in me just clicked in 2008. I think I had just read The Secret and I had this belief it would grow. I started looking at hair blogs and forums. Your hair blog was the first one that I found and I was very inspired by your curly hair journey.
What influenced that decision? People like yourself and Terri who wrote ‘curly like me’ who took time out of their day to write about their hair tips and what worked and maybe more importantly what didn’t. Looking at pictures of people’s hair growth is very inspiring. I also love visiting hair blogs like yours and going on forums like the Long Hair Community, the Long Hair Boutique and Naturally Curly forum.
What do you like about your hair? I like the way my curls are very defined and I like the length. There are not as many woman who have curly hair in Australia so I like the fact that my look is very distinctive. There are many women with curly hair who either straighten their hair or resign themselves to it but I absolutely love my hair and always have. I have never worn my hair straight. I don’t think it would suit me anyway. Curly hair is a way of life.
What do you dislike about your hair? I don’t like the thinness of my hair. And the worst part is that my hair used to be incredibly thick but I put a treatment in it to take the frizz out of the curl and it hasn’t been the same since. I have always regretted that. I just didn’t know how to care for my hair at that time. However, I do believe that if I look after it, it will become thicker in time. You really need patience if you want to grow your hair.
Do you ever receive compliments about your hair? I don’t often receive compliments about my hair but I think that is because Australians are obsessed with straightening their hair. I receive a lot of ‘interesting’ comments about my hair usually directed along the lines I should straighten it. Quite frankly, I couldn’t care less about what people thought about my hair good or bad, I don’t need validation from people. And to be honest, I’m not a fan of straight hair. I’ve always loved my hair.
Having said that though, I did get a compliment the other day from a man who said that he loves curly hair. I’ve heard of women having partners who tell them they should straighten their hair or that they are ‘lazy’ if they don’t straighten their hair. I would never be with someone like that. If someone doesn’t like any part of your appearance, they are not worthy of you. It’s a no-brainer.
How do you feel about strangers complimenting your hair? I don’t think people compliment strangers often enough! I also make an effort to go out of my way to compliment strangers with mixed reactions. It’s a sad world we live in where we can’t give a stranger a compliment without arousing suspicion or them thinking we’re trying to convert them to some obscure religion.
Gillian’s personal blog: 30 Is The New Black
Gillian is one of my readers that has been following my blog the longest and has been in contact with me the most. I appreciate her interest, input, and encouragement. Thanks Gillian!
Well, I left my braids in for a full 10 days. I “washed” my hair 3 times with my braids in. The first time, as I mentioned before, was just a thorough rinsing with water. The other times I literally squished conditioner into my scalp and into the braids. I didn’t rub or massage it at all because I didn’t want to disturb the braids, just patted it on and pressed it in. I let the conditioner sit for a few minutes and then rinsed it out thoroughly. It felt really good, actually!
It was so nice having the braids in because I really didn’t have to worry too much about fixing my hair. No combing, no styling products, no frizz…. My hair was always presentable for me to go out in public. It’s perfect for this hot summer because the air could actually reach my scalp and keep me cooler. I would’ve left them in longer, but I was starting to get a lot of flakes along my front hairline.
I think adding in the yarn was really helpful. It kept the braids from getting as fuzzy. It also protected the tips from the hair bands, the yarn absorbed most of the tension so it kept the ends from being damaged. But, on the other hand, it made the braids much more difficult to undo. My husband and I had to pick them out with hairpins which took about 3-4 hours.
When I did it before, I always had my sister to help me. She would do the top half of each braid and then pass it to me to finish while she started the next one. It usually took us about 3 hours.
But this time there were several factors adding time.
1. I braided yarn into each one to make it easier to braid all the way to the ends, so the braids were longer.
2. In addition to that, my hair is about 8 inches longer than it was the last time we did this.
3. I realized too late that I was using smaller sections than we did before.
4. It took longer to section the hair because I can’t see what I’m doing, my sister always did that part.
5. My arms were getting really tired. The more tired they got, the slower I worked.
I’m going to see how long I can leave them in. I rinsed my hair/scalp in the shower on day 2 because I had spent all day outside in 100+ degrees and lots of sweat. These photos were taken today, day 5. There’s a little fuzz, but it still looks presentable. I’m going to rinse again today because my scalp is getting a bit itchy. I may try using a little conditioner as well.
Since opening my blog on wordpress a year and a half ago, it has gotten almost 40,000 views. Not a single day has gone by without visitors. Most of that time, I averaged around 30 hits per day. For the past couple of months, I’ve been averaging 100 hits per day! That’s exciting!!
However, in spite of all that, I’ve only received 17 comments and a handfull of emails.
Before moving to wordpress, my blog was on MSN Spaces (which no longer exists) for about four years. During that time, it was basically a one-sided conversation. I often wondered if it was worth continuing. Sometimes I ask myself, “Am I wasting my time? Does anybody even really care if I keep it up or not? Would they miss my blog if I closed it down? Are the majority of my visitors just people who stumble upon it and then are like ‘Oh, that’s not what I’m looking for’? Do people really read my stuff? Is anyone benefiting from this?” If it wasn’t for the handy little keeper of stats, I would have given up a long time ago.
I get the idea that people like my blog because they share my stuff on forums, on yahoo answers, on their own blogs or websites, even on facebook. But communication is important! Getting comments and likes means a lot more than you probably realize. Getting feedback is encouraging to me! It lets me know that you like what I do and that you want me to keep doing it. I need your feedback to help guide me in my content, to help me know what you want me to write about. If you find a post interesting or helpful, say so! If I need to clarify something, say so! If you want more information, say so! If I ask a question, respond! If you have a question, ask! If there’s something you would like me to talk about, tell me! If there’s something you don’t like, tell me!
I know my blog isn’t as flashy or trendy as many of the popular ones. (I’m not aiming for celebrity status.) But I still put a lot of time into writing my posts, taking pictures (of myself, which isn’t easy!), and finding information I think would be useful to my readers and relevant to my topic. I need your encouragement if I’m going to keep this up.
Here is a gallery of photos that show many different options for wearing flowers in your hair. You can also look over my other posts in the series to see more.
This will be the last in my wedding series. I must admit I had only planned on doing 3 or 4 posts, but once I began sorting through all my collection of photos, I had a lot more content to contribute than I realized! I’ve thoroughly enjoyed doing this series and I hope you all have been able to gain something from it.
I’m not going to be showing you how to make flowers to use in your hair, there are tons of tutorials already available on youtube for that. The purpose of this is to explain how I place them in the hair. I love using flowers in my hair! There’s nothing like a beautiful flower to make an average day seem special, or a special occasion feel more special. I have used fresh flowers, artificial flowers from a craft store, and flowers on clips specifically made for hair. One of the biggest problems I’ve experienced is a stem that is too short. Whether you use real or fake flowers, make sure to leave a long enough stem when cutting the flower! A good length of stem is important for securing the flower in your hair! You can always trim it if it’s too long.
Fresh flowers in an updo - Cut the stem about 3 to 4 inches long, and make sure that the cut is smooth. If it’s jagged, the stem will catch on the hair when you try to insert it. You want it to slide in smoothly. If the stem is delicate and bends when you try to slide it in, you may want to use florist wire to make it stiff.
First, decide where you want the flower. Choose a location that has an indentation, or perhaps the updo has a flat spot that needs to be filled in. Hold the flower in different places to see what looks best. Wherever you choose, the flower needs a little nest to sit in. You want the base of the flower to fit down into the updo. The ideal look is for the petals to rest against the hair. Next, slide the stem into the updo. You may have to work around the pins that are holding your style in place, but try to get the stem close to your scalp. Place a pin at some point along the stem to prevent the flower from sliding back out. If the flower isn’t sitting well, you can try using more pins to hold it in place, or try a different location. If the stem is thick (such as on a rose) you will need to use large pins, normal sized ones will just stretch out and probably fall out. Smaller flowers usually stay in place more easily and don’t always require pins. Another option, if you have time, is to attach a large flower to an alligator clip using floral wire and/or tape.
Hawaiian look (flower over the ear) – You will need to use something to hold the flower in place. If you’re using a flower on a clip, it’s really simple. The trick is to not place it on top of all the hair. If you do, it will flop around. Pull the bulk of the hair back out of the way and secure the flower close to the scalp, then let the hair fall back around it. If you have really thick hair, you may need to work with it a little to keep it from falling over the flower. If you need to, discreetly use a few pins to hold your hair in place the way it naturally falls, then attach the flower. If you’re using a fresh flower, it’s a bit more challenging. I’ve done this look on a few different people and the simplest way I found is to use bobby pins and a snap clip. The snap clip works wonders! As long as it’s big enough to close around the stem, it holds much better and is easier to use than pins. Using the same technique, place the flower over the ear with the stem pointing to the back of the head. Behind the ear, slide the snap clip into the hair and over the stem, as close to the scalp as possible. (hint: you can crisscross these the same as bobby pins for extra hold!) Place a pin or two at the base of the flower if needed. Make sure the hair falls over the stem and hides it.
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The stems are usually wire wrapped with tape. These wires are usually about 4-6 inches long and very thin. After you separate the bundle, bend each wire in half and twist it around itself (as in the pic below). This will give you a sturdier stem and rounded end so it slides into the hair much easier.
You can also use silk flowers. They usually have wire coated in plastic as the stem. The wire is thicker and stronger than the ones above so it’s not necessary to bend it in half. Cut the stem about 2-3 inches long. Sometimes these types of flowers aren’t secured on the stems very well and may slide off. If that’s the case, just use a little glue to hold them together.
Any of these small artificial flowers will usually stay in the hair without the aid of pins or clips. You can scatter them throughout the updo, or place them in groupings. You have a lot of options.
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If you want something more elaborate, talk to your florist about making a piece for you. She should be able to create something (real or artificial) similar to a corsage that would be suitable for wearing in your hair.